Homemaking didn’t come easy to me even when I became a stay at home wife I truly did not take on the role of a homemaker. I have been a stay at home wife for a year now and have learned a lot.
As someone that share’s content about homemaking I wanted to share my experience in becoming one. I truly have grown so much in the past year and have found a love for this role.
Becoming a stay at home wife
I will be the first one to tell you that I never knew what my adult life would look like. I always thought it’s be nice to stay home with my kids at least while they’re little, but also had a lot of career driven goals to go along with that idea.
I don’t think I ever had a big picture idea of what my ideal would truly be. Going back to a year ago when I had to make a decision on which way I’d go and my husband and I decided I’d be a stay at home wife we didn’t know what that would truly look like either or how much of a blessing that could be for the both of us.
Honestly, I had no clue what I was getting myself into and the role I’d be taking on. For at least the first quarter of the year I think I was in denial that this was my new reality and kept myself busy to not really process what my new life looked like. I felt out of place and like I had no role in life because I was a stay at home wife without kids. Not knowing how much of a role I had and impact I could make. I didn’t know how much of I role I could have at home without kids to take care of.
The changes as a stay at home wife
At some point I slowly transitioned into embracing the world of homemaking and being a stay at home wife. I am no where near where I want to be, but each day I am working to be the homemaker I desire to be. I don’t know exactly when I made the switch, but I know the last 6 months have been extremely different for my priorities and what my day to day life has looked like.
Fast forward to now, I am now pregnant with our first baby and trying to navigate what this means for me and my life as a stay at home wife and soon to be mom. This role in just a year’s time has changed dramatically for me and year two ,as we bring in our new baby into the family will only amplify that.
Homemaker’s have so many different realities of what it looks like for them in each season of life. This is something I had to learn and am still learning. I get comfortable with the reality homemaking is for me and then it changes completely and I have to find a way to fall in love with it again.
When I became a stay at home wife my priority really wasn’t taking care of the home or family. I know, it seems weird to be a staying at home and not prioritize taking care of the home, but I truly didn’t know what it looks like to be an intentional stay at home wife. It was more of an after thought. Especially because cleaning and cooking did not come naturally to me. We had some expectations of what I would complete and I’d do them, but it was nothing compared to how I manage our home now.
When we both worked we got used to doing the bare minimum to manage the household and that’s how we started my stay at home journey, me doing the bare minimum. As I had more time to really look into the role I took on I realized how much better I could be managing the home. This is what really drove me to make the changes I did.
I also had to learn how to get things done even when I simply didn’t want to. I lacked a lot of discipline. The past 6 months I have been working on this, one thing at a time. I started out with making a schedule and sticking to it with my blog, then cooking, then cleaning. I also got much more organized with managing the home with bills and things like that. Again, I have much to grow in and am not where I want to be, but I can honestly say I have seen a lot of improvement in my homemaking. I am very grateful for this because where I started was not anywhere close to where I needed to be.
Why I blog about homemaking
I chose to write about homemaking because I needed a resource like this a year ago. I want to relatable outlet you can look into for the good and the bad, but also show that no matter what there is beauty in this life. I have seen so many people in attempts to be relatable talk so negatively on this role and I want to share that yes, it is hard, but it is so beautiful and worth it.
Each day I am learning new things and trying to better and want to share what I have learned or am working on. Building a community of women that are taking care of their home is the goal I am striving for. While most of the days are spent alone at home the job, doesn’t have to be lonely or without a learning manual. There is so much we all can teach and learn from!
My hope is to show you wether you always knew you wanted to me a stay at home mom or you got thrown into this role, you can make a difference in your families lives. It’s something to be proud of and not look down on yourself about.
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