Homemaking can mean so many different things to each and everyone. You can be stay at home wife or a working wife. You don’t even need to be a wife to be a homemaker. Homemaking simply put is managing your home and family well.
Managing your home well is a skill and job that can fit into many different lifestyles well. Managing the home well is so important, yet it get’s neglected or not it’s viewed as valuable.
A lot of your daily struggles may be coming from not having a well managed home. If you are responsible for managing you and your families home and lives this is such an important role. It set’s the tone for everyone else’s day.
Looking in, homemaking may not seem like a big deal. It may look like all you do is clean and cook. So, what’s the big deal?
The big deal is your setting the tone for your entire home and family. When you are doing homemaking well your home and family run smoothly. There is peace in a chaotic world. This is such a blessing to not only you, but your family.
Getting to serve your family and doing it well is such a life changing a purpose giving role. Learning to do it well may take some time and trial and error, but it’s so worth it.
How to be a good homemaker
What homemaking looks like
This can look different for everyone. Everyone’s strong suits are also different. Some people may gravitate to spending a lot of their time cleaning and others may be in the kitchen most of the day.
What is most important is meeting your families needs. To know what homemaking should look like for you, look around and see what the family needs, chores, yard work, life management, bills, cooking, errands, anything your family needs to function well. See what your role should be or could be. This may take some time to maker sure you didn’t miss anything.
Talk with your husband, see what he needs and would love for you to get done for the house and family. See what jobs are yours and what are his. Even if you stay at home this does not mean your husband will not have any jobs around the house. This may be something he is not aware of. If it’s not talked about things may get behind, missed, or resentment may rise. This is due to unspoken expectations each person has for the other. Things that may seem like a given is your husbands job may not seem so to him and same the other way around. Communicating riles is so important.
Having the whole family understand what their roles are is what will make everything come together perfectly.
Having the accountability of your family knowing the things you have agreed to manage and keep up with also may be the motivation you need to make sure everything get’s done that is supposed to.
Routine’s and schedule’s
Not having a boss telling you what to do may be difficult for some, to get everything that needs done, done throughout the day. It may be easy for you to let things go and spend your time on your phone or becoming unproductive as the days go on. It also may be because you’re so overwhelmed with all the to do’s floating around your head and always feeling behind. When you don’t have a set structure that you feel you need to follow it’ll be hard to naturally get everything done each day if you don’t know exactly what that is and a plan to tackle those projects.
Do what works for you! If you work better on a strict schedule, a loose schedule, bribing yourself, etc. do it. Or maybe you don’t know and that’s okay too. Try things out for a week or two and asses what worked and what didn’t. Then adjust to find what best works for you.
What once worked may no longer work and that’s okay! It just means it’s time to figure out what will work. It may take trial and error again to figure it out. This may be because of life changes or it’s simply just no longer working for you. Whatever the reason if you notice something is no longer working, be willing to adjust or change it.
Do what works for you on what you and your family on the tasks you do and how often. Just because one family does laundry every day does not mean that works for you. If you are trying to fit into a mold of what other’s are doing it may kill your motivation and lead to burn out.
Figure out your own routine’s and stick to what works for you guys. That’s what is truly best for your family, not trying to be the perfect homemaker for another family.
Due to not having a boss around all day to keep you on task you will need to have discipline. This is hard and harder for some than others. Be real with yourself on your shortcomings and what aspects of your life you need to work on. If you aren’t doing this you can’t server your family well.
Creating the environment of the home
You have the power to set the tone for your household. Having a calm environment for everyone to enjoy is probably a goal many have. Taking the time and energy into learning how to do your homemaking well will help aid in this so much.
Also working to learn how to be the calm voice for your family and doing everything with a grateful heart will make everyone else follow suit and feel safe and at peace in the home and family.
Trying to do things when you can that will bless your family also is an amazing way to take care of your family. Maybe it’s making a meal you know they love, picking up a chore they typically do when they’re getting behind or overwhelmed, or setting up a time to do something they enjoy. There are many different ways to show you care and know them well. Take time to connect, don’t spend all your days taking care of the home and neglect the family relationship. Each role in homemaking is so important, so don’t get fixated on just doing one aspect.
Blessing your family whenever you can is such a big part of homemaking. The jobs you do is a blessing for your family especially as you learn to do this well. Taking care of them and their home is a blessing and it’s easy for you to forget as homemaking becomes more normal.
Remember, the job and big impact you are making for your family. Don’t lose sight of this as time goes on. It’s easy to feel like it’s just tasks you need to do and not like you have and important role for your family. Remembering this as your why can help you keep going on the hard days.
Being grateful to steward your home well and take care of your family is what will make this role a blessing and not be done in vein. If you struggle with seeing the things you need to do each day as not a burned try hard to change your perspective. Remember, that how you feel about doing a certain task on a specific day should not shape how you feel or view homemaking. You are going to have hard days, don’t let them ruin your mindset.
Are you a good homemaker?
Remember, homemaking is different for everyone and everyone’s priorities are different. No matter what, when it’s done well and with love it’s such a beautiful and important role.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but with some intentional thought and effort becoming a good homemaker can be a reality for you:)
You got this! This role is a blessing and your family needs you! Keep this thought in your mind to keep yourself going. It’s not always easy or fun, but know all your efforts is so worth it.
How can you better take care of your home and family this week? Take steps to do so and see the impact you make on your family.
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